Saturday, February 03, 2007

Love algorithms ...

There is a delicious inexplicable level of charm in a woman grabbing on to her man, letting down of her guards and being vulnerable. Even the strongest most self-achieved most self-sufficient of us wait for the man who we would want to need. The man we need to need. It is not calculated vulnerability because the risk is never calculated ...

There is a most endearing most exciting feeling in witnessing a man’s attachment to his woman. Even the strongest most detached most nonchalant characters wait for the woman whose arms they can rest their head safely in knowing they’re home and forgetting challenges and pains even for a while. It is not calculated vulnerability because when you give yourself to a woman the risk is never there ...

Planning a life together when seperate worlds have already existed, when personal space and personal habits have already been established and fixed, coming together in shared stuff, shared bed, shared plans and dreams, limitations have to follow, what is gained and what is lost? What will compensate for the compromise? What will define it? What corrections are made to balance back individuality and shifting the equilibrium towards a dual state, is energy lost or gained? And how reversible is the process? Happiness is a tough one to measure ... Then again, that's the calculated risk ...

18 comments:

gitanes legeres said...

and that's the real charm..forget the math...good luck for thursday...ouff c'est bientot fini..

Hamze said...

Very nicely said Mirvat.
But now that you got me thinking about it...again, Happiness is definitely a calculated risk.

Scaryyyy

Hashem said...

Mirvat- Really a refreshing nice post....
Good luck in Thursday....I'll call you for sure...:)

achinar said...

Hey Mirvat, I don't know what's happening on Thursday, but good luck!

That was a very sweet post...

Jamil said...

As much as this post is nice but it's sad, donno why? once i read it i felt the sadness, maybe you touched something deep in me, well, smile mirvat and good luck for thursady

Ibn Bint Jbeil said...

mirvat, good luck thursday... and wednesday and friday; (whatever may be happening. hope it's grand.)

when a man and a woman leave their already existing worlds behind to form a new, joint one, they step up to a different level of existing. it uses up a lot of one's youthful courage to take such a step. it is a step that represents a kind of human maturation of sorts, i think.

it is risky, though, because nothing is ever what it seems.

jooj said...

"because when you give yourself to a woman the risk is never there ..." Mirvat, keef keef? please explain.

Love algorithms are only for academia. They are NP-hard, undeterministically complex with an exponential order. I prefer touching and smelling :). Best analysis!

And I hope you kick ass on Thur, with whatever you are doing.

Mirvat said...

defending on thursday
thank you guys :)

Maya@NYC said...

good luck for thursday then!
loved the post... although algorithms still too complex for me... and i like IBJ's take on the issue...

_z. said...

laken good luck on thursday.. kick ass.

you're not kidding anymore with your posts are you mirvat.

bass I second jooj's question... keef keef :P

transient said...

Best of luck.
As far as algorithms go, calculations are for the cold, safe, and low-risk-factor formulaic life. Sometimes you need blind faith.

laila said...

i love this post.
i'll call to wish you luck. 3ade if you dont pick up, i totally understand.

laila said...

there was supposed to be a smiley there somewhere!
so..
:)

raed said...

lovely post... very nicely said
and good luck on thursday :)

Ibn Bint Jbeil said...

pardon my ignorance, bas shou ya3ni defending? are you defending otroohat el-daktora?

FZ said...

beautiful! good luck thursday...

Mirvat said...

layoul eh habibi call me :)
ibj yes it is :)

thanks guys, be back soon

Coco said...

There's a risk in every step we take and every decision we make, because we are responsible and because we know that the present moment can and will change.
But when two people are looking at the same path ahead, both as much in sync as they can be, the risk is minimal. Compromise, respect and tolerance are the key to any beautiful and successful relationship.